Strive or Be Deprived

In anything one does in life, he or she has to be able to put in the necessary work to get where he or she want to go.  This means that one has to strive and always staying proactive and creating opportunities for him or her in order to achieve goals, things in life.  One should not be idle or deprive at all because that leads to nowhere and time still continuously moves forward and he or she may feel like one is falling behind in life.  One should not give up at the first sign of adversity as well; patience is virtue.  Challenges are good for individuals because nothing in life is handed to anyone.  One must work hard in order to achieve something.  Staying productive and setting goals are ways in being great and successful in life.  At times, one has to wait for his or her opportunity to arise and he or she is going to be ready when that moment comes because of the hard work one has endured and put.  It is up to the individual and how bad one wants of something out in life.  So all and all, one must keep staying productive and striving to reach his or her endeavors.  His or her time will come.

Be Approachable

In order to begin with being approachable, one must Have An Approach Method first.  Once someone has a method, he or she will understand that him or her needs to be presentable in a way that he or she knows how to brand him or herself.  As I had written in my last post, the first thing is to make a connection, whether it is with a person or people or a goal(s) in mind.  One needs to make a good impression on someone if he or she is trying to build a relationship or envision potential benefits that can be derived if he or she is setting goal(s).  Both instances need to potentially derive benefits and opportunities from all sides or parties in the matter for a connection to be effective.  If a person is trying to make a good impression in order to build relationship(s) with a person or people, he or she needs to dress professionally and to be able to articulate in a way to market oneself; to come off as one has something to offer and how he or she can benefit another party(ies).  For setting goals, one should have plans on how they are going to execute them and foresee the potential benefits from it all.  There should be tactics on how the plans will play out.  The second portion of the approach method is the association.  Once a connection has been made, one need to try to establish an association and to continuously building upon it.  For building relationship, one should always try to improve oneself in everything and honing on his or her skills and staying on top of oneself by being updated on new information being derived and using it to one's advantage.  For setting goals, one should Have A Healthy Obsession with being persistent and finding any potential challenges or pitfalls that one may foresee and to be able to combat them and always looking for changes to be improved upon.  With being approachable, it is a continuation on working and improving on oneself and staying marketable by being anew and updated in order to become the best version of yourself, which is to stay challenging by setting goals.

Be Assertive Over Passive

Being assertive over passive is important when doing anything in life, especially with developing and building relationships with oneself and others. Someone who is assertive possess the characteristics that everyone should want such as leadership, motivated, self-assured, driven, etc.  He or she is aiming high in life by setting goals and trying to reach his or her potential and also willing to live with the consequences.  As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, Risks Are Good, and are the catalysts in reaching someone's goals or potentials in life.  He or she may hit big or fall hard, but that person is not afraid to fail and to try again and again.  Like the saying goes, "Everyone loves a fighter."  This person will stand out from a lot of people.  On the other side of the coin, someone being passive is not seen as a negative thing, but he or she will be unable to reach his or her potential due to be afraid of taking risks and failing.  One will be consistent and not be able to grow on a personal and professional level.  That person is not going through challenges or trying to avoid them and playing it safe.  With the assertive person being inconsistent, but he or she is growing because he or she is taking those risks and facing those challenges to strive to be the best person that he or she can be.  As I written many of times on my blog, life is about experiencing.  The best way is to be assertive and pursuing whatever one is trying to achieve and making the mistakes that will come along the way and learning from them in the pursuit of reaching happiness.

Think Big

When it comes to setting goals and tasks to achieve something, one should try to think big.  Even though he is a controversial figure and the POTUS, Donald Trump is right when he said, "As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big."  One should strive to become great and not good, which I wrote about in one of my previous posts, Be Great Not Good .  Try to use one's capabilities to the fullest.  It does not have to be on every goal one goes out to set for him or herself.  But when one is setting goals, he or she needs to try to make the goal a little more difficult than the previous one in order to gradually reach greatness and full potential, which also causes growth.  Setting goals with the same level of difficulty to accomplish is all as well for a few of them, but one should not do that for every one.  As one's goals start to become more harder as one does more and more of them, the more challenges and difficult they become, which will cause someone to become stronger and greater than he or she old self.  No matter how one's feel about some goals are too big to accomplish, one should strive to achieve them anyways.  No one should try to limit him or herself.  This is a detriment to one's growth and confidence.

Success Is Contagious

When one has settled in and is on his or her way of accomplish a goal, success becomes contagious.  The ball will keep on rolling.  Because one knows what it takes and the possible dilemmas he or she will face and understanding on how to combat those problems.  It feels good to achieve something, but do not get caught up in a little bit of success.  One should always look to achieve more after each task, goal has been completed.  Always look to take on challenge, especially if it is difficult; do not run away from anything.  The bigger the challenge, the better the person becomes as a result of accomplishing such feat.  Just as success can be contagious, regression and failing to complete goals can as well.  Do not put oneself in position to fall into a state of relapse.  In order to avoid such state, pursue, achieve, and continue to chase goals in life.

Be Great Not Good

My dad once told me, "Good is the evil of great."  He had gotten that from a book.  I had forgotten name of it.  It is easy for someone to settle for being okay or good than to be great.  Everyone has heard of the expression, "Take what you can get or settle."  There is nothing negative about that phrase, because time does move fast and it is better than having nothing at all. No one wants to look back and say, "I have could have done a little better than what I had settle for."  It may be more work and harder to achieve greatness, but one gets to say, "I gave it my all,"  and have no regrets.  Being good limits oneself and holds on to untapped potential.  Even when someone is unsuccessful the first, second, or how many times, keep trying.  Being unsuccessful at something multiple times does not equate to failure.  Life is about experiencing.  Being unsuccessful at something in life is inevitable.  Overcoming barriers in life after multiple unsuccessful attempts is what is going to make someone to  be successful in life.  People learn more from mistakes than not.    From adversities, challenges bourn out stronger character and success.  Don't fear away from being great, take it by the horns.

Be Goal-Oriented

One's happiness needs to be first and foremost and must be upheld.   In order for it not to be compromised, one must set goals for him or herself.  It is good to have both short term and long term goals.  This will help someone avoid being in a complacent state, which then leads to a stunt into someone's growth as a person.  Life is always changing and everyone should try to look and to improve his or her current state.  It is easy to be in a content state when one is already happy with his or her life.  Yes, reaching happiness is an ultimate goal for many, but that can change over time as one is getting older and experiencing through life as it progresses.  This is why it is essential for one to set goals for him or herself.  Just because one is happy today does not mean it will carry over to next year, in five years, or even ten years.  Setting goals does not have to be something extremely hard, but it does need to be something that challenges oneself.  As long as it is realistic and attainable.  It can be something simple like going to the gym and working out for 20 minutes, 3-4 times a week for a month, then one can increase the load as time moves forward.  As one starts to see results, he or she will have a boost of self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence.  This all leads to happiness.  So all and all, set goals to sustain happiness, because it can change day to day, weekly, monthly, yearly, etc.

Be A Better You

One of the most important aspects for growth in an individual is to become a better you.  Even if you are currently happy with yourself and you are yourself's best friend.  It is vital to love oneself, but one needs to challenge him or herself and set goals for him or her in order to have growth.  Because if you get content and become complacent, then you won't reach any of your untapped potential.  This will cripple and disable you from any sort of personal or professional growth, which is important to reach any sort of success in whatever one is seeking.  In my personal life, I have become my own worst enemy.  I had a lot of academic success through grade school and post secondary education, but did not try to better myself.  I would go to school, do my work, and come home.  I did very little interaction with people while I was there.  I was a reserved individual.  I did not like to speak in general, but some people looked at it that I disliked them.  Like the old adage, "It is me and not you."  That was a truism that hinder me both personally and professionally.  As of now, I have two degrees, but have a hard of finding a position in my field due to a lack of effective communication skills. Communication is a big aspect in every type of professional business. I am an articulate person in the thought process, but when it comes to verbalizing it, that is a different story.  As I have learnt the hard way, thinking and speaking are two different processes.  Both require a lot of work, which involves a ton of practice.  One can read on how to do those things, but in order for it to effectively work, they must be put into practice, which involves interacting with people.  As I mentioned earlier, I am a reserved/introvert person, which meant I had a comfort zone and did not want to come out of it because of fear.  Being in a comfort zone is safe and dangerous at the same time.  It is safe due to the fact you do not have to face your fear in the short term, but dangerous since it limits your growth.  Eventually, one is going to have to come to grip with his or her fear in order to get to where he or she is trying to go in life.  Life is about experiencing and facing challenges and to become a better you as a result of those obstacles.  Embrace challenge, it is okay.  It is okay to fail as long as you continue to strive until you reach success.  You will live and learn.  Failing happens only when someone gives up and stop trying to reach his or her goal or goals.  Don't give up, don't ever give up.