Images Matter

Images play a big role in shaping the way people think and have a great influence in their lives. Confidence is derived from self-image or how one perceives he or she should look and feel.  For example, with the color red, men are attracted to women the most when they are wearing something red.  Men are visually (Look) stimulated beings; images such as stop signs and red lights from the traffic lights and the actions that follows when seeing them demand people to stop.  This grabs attention or being attention-centric.  Other examples include fire trucks and ambulances when their red sirens go off and people have to pull to the side of the road and take notice. With women, they are emotionally (Feel) stimulated beings.  They are attracted to men who have great postures and show strong body language.  Women will feel and assume that men like that are confident.  That is why it is important not to look sad on the outside for men, because women will feel that these type of men are insecure and having internal battles with themselves and perceive as weak, even when they may not be on the inside. Personally,  I struggle with this.  I feel happy on the inside, but sound and look depress on the outside.  I am a laid back and soft spoken individual.  We as humans communicate nonverbally a lot more than verbally (60-90% vs. 10-30%).  The way someone feels can be displayed on the surface, in general.  The subconscious is stronger than the conscious mind.  So all and all, appearance does matter.  Both men and women's psyches are greatly affected by images.  When it comes to images, men and women are stimulated the same but with different perceptions. For women, it is through feelings.  For men, it is through looks.

Think Big

When it comes to setting goals and tasks to achieve something, one should try to think big.  Even though he is a controversial figure and the POTUS, Donald Trump is right when he said, "As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big."  One should strive to become great and not good, which I wrote about in one of my previous posts, Be Great Not Good .  Try to use one's capabilities to the fullest.  It does not have to be on every goal one goes out to set for him or herself.  But when one is setting goals, he or she needs to try to make the goal a little more difficult than the previous one in order to gradually reach greatness and full potential, which also causes growth.  Setting goals with the same level of difficulty to accomplish is all as well for a few of them, but one should not do that for every one.  As one's goals start to become more harder as one does more and more of them, the more challenges and difficult they become, which will cause someone to become stronger and greater than he or she old self.  No matter how one's feel about some goals are too big to accomplish, one should strive to achieve them anyways.  No one should try to limit him or herself.  This is a detriment to one's growth and confidence.

You Have To Want It

When seeking and reaching out for goals, one has to really want it for him or herself.  One must look from within him or herself and ask, "Is this what I really want for me?"  There are people out in the world that will tell others that you need this and that in order to be successful and those people may or may not be successful themselves.  Quite ironic, right?   One should have the belief and confidence and to stand behind in whatever he or she wants in life.  That person should not look for something easy and try to take a shortcut and to say he or she is succeeding in life.  Challenges and struggles are of the essence when taking on tasks and aiming for goals.  One must learn from those challenges and to grow from them as a result.   Do not let fear hold one back from pursuing those goals because of the level of difficult.  One should embrace those challenges.  That is why it makes sense to go for something that one really wants, because he or she will try to go through those barriers in order to reach those goals.  If someone does something and he or she does not really want it, then it is easy for that person to give up and quit and be like, "Oh well."  Do not be that person.  As I mentioned in my last post, Success Is Contagious, so can failure.  So, go for what matters to you.

Inspire To Be Desired

When someone is happy to be doing or working towards something such as a goal, he or she is able to exude the confidence, belief and that others can feel it as well.   When a person is speaking about his or her passion, others will feel the same love that one has obtained or still in progress in achieving.  Going through the journey and believing in one's ability that he or she naturally possess, backed up by hard work and dedication, that it is possible to achieve whatever he or she trying to obtain no matter what background he or she has. Already knowing what he or she is going against by planning and setting goals to accomplish the feat.  Not only is one inspiring him or herself but others well, even if he or she is unaware about it.  When one loves doing or striving towards something he or she loves, there is a new sense of self that is a better version of oneself and others around can see and feel it.  So all and all, inspire to be desired, and always try to be better you by achieving and setting new goals for oneself.

Light(You), Camera(Plan), Action(Implement)

Lights, camera, action mean it is showtime.  This is where people want to put their best foot forward and showcase their abilities. Where you are the light and have fixed yourself just right to where your best is being displayed.  The camera is the plan where everything is recorded and being played out to how you want it to be.  Action is implementing or carrying out the plan with what you have envision it to be since the very beginning.  Setting goals and working hard by dedication and determination causes you to improve on the old you and instilling confidence and self-worth by going through challenges and adversities and persevering from it all.  With the right mind set and attitude, it is not impossible to reach a goal or plan.  As the saying goes, "Believing is half the battle."  Having the vision in accomplishing the goal, plan backed by the drive, determination, and commitment will gets someone to where he or she is headed.  Lights, camera, action, make it happen.

Failure Is Not An Option

Failure is not an option when one has the belief, determination, and psyche to go after what he or she desires.  He or she can already see or envisions him or herself there before he or she reaches that goal.   That person already knows what challenges and adversities lie ahead and is not afraid to still go after what he or she is passionate about.  Anything someone wants out of life is not going to come easy or handed to him or her.  But with hard work, commitment, and a positive that person has the belief and determination to achieve that goal.  Even when someone is in the process of reaching his or her goal and there are unsuccessful attempts, he or she still strives towards that goals, because one knows he or she possess the abilities, which is also his or her utilities to obtain that goal or goals that he or she is seeking.   Remember, it is not how you start, because more than likely there are going to be some rough patches along the way, but how one finishes.  Failure is not an option when one knows to expect and confidence to go after what he or she wants.  Do not be afraid, because fear limits someone's growth and will be unable to be a better you.

Be Goal-Oriented

One's happiness needs to be first and foremost and must be upheld.   In order for it not to be compromised, one must set goals for him or herself.  It is good to have both short term and long term goals.  This will help someone avoid being in a complacent state, which then leads to a stunt into someone's growth as a person.  Life is always changing and everyone should try to look and to improve his or her current state.  It is easy to be in a content state when one is already happy with his or her life.  Yes, reaching happiness is an ultimate goal for many, but that can change over time as one is getting older and experiencing through life as it progresses.  This is why it is essential for one to set goals for him or herself.  Just because one is happy today does not mean it will carry over to next year, in five years, or even ten years.  Setting goals does not have to be something extremely hard, but it does need to be something that challenges oneself.  As long as it is realistic and attainable.  It can be something simple like going to the gym and working out for 20 minutes, 3-4 times a week for a month, then one can increase the load as time moves forward.  As one starts to see results, he or she will have a boost of self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence.  This all leads to happiness.  So all and all, set goals to sustain happiness, because it can change day to day, weekly, monthly, yearly, etc.