How To Become Assertive: Invest In Self First

In order for someone to become assertive, one needs to invest in him or herself first.  Before one can truly make someone else happy or invest into someone or something, he or she needs to make oneself happy first.   People want to be liked by everybody and want his or her approval or validation, but one needs to truly seek out his or her own desires and wants and to affirm self-validation, which I wrote in a previous post, Self-Validation.  No one knows one better than oneself and looking for validation from others is not going to make one happy, because one is unsure about him or herself without investing.  Until one knows oneself by investing into him or herself with time, money, emotions, experiencing life on his or her own and has self-validation, then one can take into consideration of sanctions from other people's validations.  One has to search for his or her own pursuit of happiness or self and to look from within and to start setting goals for oneself to reach wherever he or she is trying to go in life.  One must always try to look to improve and to get better at being a better version of him or herself and that is by being proactive and setting goals, which will create opportunities for that person to achieve whatever he or she is trying to accomplish.   As one is going through the journey for pursuit of greatness/happiness/bliss of oneself, he or she will face adversities and challenges and learn more about him or herself in which he or she will be investing the time, money, effort/emotions and will reach success. Even if he or she does not reach success the first time at whatever he or she is trying to accomplish, that person will continuously to try and try until success is reach.  As a result, he or she will develop characteristics such as drive, tenacity, self-reliance, self-worth, high morals, etc.  That person will exude these characteristics and they will be ingrained into his or her personality and others will take notice.  All in all, in order to be assertive, it has to start with you, because you matter.  Being assertive in life can lead to immense possibilities and reaching your greatest potential in one's life.

Failure Is Not An Option

Failure is not an option when one has the belief, determination, and psyche to go after what he or she desires.  He or she can already see or envisions him or herself there before he or she reaches that goal.   That person already knows what challenges and adversities lie ahead and is not afraid to still go after what he or she is passionate about.  Anything someone wants out of life is not going to come easy or handed to him or her.  But with hard work, commitment, and a positive that person has the belief and determination to achieve that goal.  Even when someone is in the process of reaching his or her goal and there are unsuccessful attempts, he or she still strives towards that goals, because one knows he or she possess the abilities, which is also his or her utilities to obtain that goal or goals that he or she is seeking.   Remember, it is not how you start, because more than likely there are going to be some rough patches along the way, but how one finishes.  Failure is not an option when one knows to expect and confidence to go after what he or she wants.  Do not be afraid, because fear limits someone's growth and will be unable to be a better you.

What Is Your Passion?

Everyone has hopes and dream when he or she is little.  These passions are discovered through exposure from television, the environment he or she is from, the internet, just about anywhere.  One usually envisions him or herself doing whatever passion he or she desires.  That is what passion is, a burning desire that saturates in a person's psyche for a long time.  As the old saying goes, one usually eats, sleeps, breaths whatever passion he or she envisions doing one day. Nothing in the world usually makes a person more happier than to imagine him or herself doing his or her passion.  Unfortunately, as some people get older and realize they feel as so they cannot reach those passions for whatever reasons.  Planting a bad seed into one's mind can cause someone not to strive for those passions as one used to have as a little child. When one places doubt into his or her mind that is when excuses are born. I feel like everyone has the necessary abilities to accomplish anything he or she wants to achieve in life. In one of my previous posts, Your Abilities=Your Utilities , I wrote more about that.  Everyone has unique abilities, and one's strengths are different from another's strengths.  It is up to the person to utilize them.  Even if one has unsuccessful attempts from one passion, but learn from those unsuccessful attempts, another passion may derive from it.  It is okay for someone to have more than one passion.  Do not limit oneself.  Try to maximize the potential that lies within oneself.  Searching and discovering anything in life are going be through trials and errors, that is how experience is acquired.  Do not fear going after a passion, strive at it.  Do not live in fear, it will only hinder you.