Images Matter

Images play a big role in shaping the way people think and have a great influence in their lives. Confidence is derived from self-image or how one perceives he or she should look and feel.  For example, with the color red, men are attracted to women the most when they are wearing something red.  Men are visually (Look) stimulated beings; images such as stop signs and red lights from the traffic lights and the actions that follows when seeing them demand people to stop.  This grabs attention or being attention-centric.  Other examples include fire trucks and ambulances when their red sirens go off and people have to pull to the side of the road and take notice. With women, they are emotionally (Feel) stimulated beings.  They are attracted to men who have great postures and show strong body language.  Women will feel and assume that men like that are confident.  That is why it is important not to look sad on the outside for men, because women will feel that these type of men are insecure and having internal battles with themselves and perceive as weak, even when they may not be on the inside. Personally,  I struggle with this.  I feel happy on the inside, but sound and look depress on the outside.  I am a laid back and soft spoken individual.  We as humans communicate nonverbally a lot more than verbally (60-90% vs. 10-30%).  The way someone feels can be displayed on the surface, in general.  The subconscious is stronger than the conscious mind.  So all and all, appearance does matter.  Both men and women's psyches are greatly affected by images.  When it comes to images, men and women are stimulated the same but with different perceptions. For women, it is through feelings.  For men, it is through looks.

Worrying Is Wasting Time

One of the biggest things that someone should avoid doing in life is to worry.  It does nothing but sucks the life and energy out of someone and drains the time away.  Worrying will not change anyone's situation, but will keep someone from being productive and making useful of his or her time.  As I mentioned in an earlier post, time is one of the most precious thing one can have in life.  One should make the most out of it, because time moves fast and will leave someone behind.  Worrying is just like fear, there is nothing to it.  Only one allows those type of emotions into his or her psyche.  One has to go out and live life without worry and fear; that is the only way one will feel free.  Strive out to be the best that one can be and on the pursue of happiness.  The only who is stopping oneself is the exact same person he or she sees in the mirror.  So stop worrying and be comfortable in one's own skin and make the most out of one's time.

Don't Fear Change

Ever hear of the phrase, "Nothing to fear but fear itself."  Fear is an emotion that someone allows into his or her psyche.  Everyone posses the abilities to do whatever he or she wants to achieve in life.  I wrote about this in two of my previous posts, Your Abilities=Your Utilities and Psyche Over Matter.  Do not let fear stop anyone from anything.  I know we as people at times like to be in their comfort zones, because they are safe and convenient and we can be stuck in our ways and are not always susceptible to change. If one has lived for quite some time, he or she knows that change is inevitable.  That person knows that he or she has to be adaptable to change in order to continue to succeed in life.   Change should not be looked as a negative thing.  It helps us to grow and to have different perspectives and experiences that we would not look at it if change was nonexistent.   Life is about experiencing and changes are the essences, but they benefit us by helping to become a better version of ourselves.  Do not fear change, embrace it.  

Failure Is Not An Option

Failure is not an option when one has the belief, determination, and psyche to go after what he or she desires.  He or she can already see or envisions him or herself there before he or she reaches that goal.   That person already knows what challenges and adversities lie ahead and is not afraid to still go after what he or she is passionate about.  Anything someone wants out of life is not going to come easy or handed to him or her.  But with hard work, commitment, and a positive that person has the belief and determination to achieve that goal.  Even when someone is in the process of reaching his or her goal and there are unsuccessful attempts, he or she still strives towards that goals, because one knows he or she possess the abilities, which is also his or her utilities to obtain that goal or goals that he or she is seeking.   Remember, it is not how you start, because more than likely there are going to be some rough patches along the way, but how one finishes.  Failure is not an option when one knows to expect and confidence to go after what he or she wants.  Do not be afraid, because fear limits someone's growth and will be unable to be a better you.

Psyche Over Matter

"Pain is only 90 % mental."  It only exists if one thinks in that manner.  Nothing can harm the psyche such as the soul and spirit unless one allows it.  If one's mind is infiltrated with negative thoughts and doubt, then it can have a trickle effect to the spirit and soul.  My mom used to tell me, "You can speaks things into existence."  One should have positive self-talk and the belief to accomplish whatever he or she is trying to achieve. Even when there are obstacles or rough patches down the road or foreseen in the future, positive self-talk and thoughts should still be there and having the belief that one will overcome those hurdles.  There might be days when someone wants to quit at work, on a project, or a goal, but that person needs to have grit to fight through and prevail at the end.  Never let negative thoughts seep into one's psyche, because the mind can overcome any physical or emotional distress one is experiencing at the moment.  I am not saying to work to death, but know when to rest and have some sort of schedule or plan and strive to finish the task at hand.  So all and all, psyche over matter.  The only one who can stop him or her from achieving greatness is oneself.