Have A Healthy Obsession

Whenever one is dealing with a matter,  he or she should try to be involved as much as one can be.  It is good to have a healthy obsession and to be in control of the situation.  I am not talking about having OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) and being worried about every little thing to the point where it distracts someone and throws one off focus.  I mean, staying on top of one's matter, task and keeping up with updates so one does not fall behind and knowing how to handle a situation when the moment arises.  If a problem occurs, one will know how to combat that and knowing how to make the necessary changes or improvements where a situation like that will unlikely occur again when new information is derived.  When working on a goal or doing anything, one should have a healthy obsession, so he or she can stay on top and being in control and avoiding unforeseeable threats.  This will lead one into being successful in about anything one wants to achieve.

Self-Validation

In life, people are seeking out what they want out of life and what to do with it.  Some may go look for guidance from people who have been big influencers in their lives or who they have a great deal of trust. What most people often forget to do is to look at themselves and want they truly want.  What they want may not match or be similar to what the people who matter the most to them.  Those people have to remember that only them are in control of their lives and happiness.  One does not have to receive validation from others in order to achieve happiness.  What one believes in and stand for is all the validation that he or she needs.  It is up to that individual to go after it through hard work, persistent, and determination.  One of the people I admire is Shannon Sharpe from Fox Sports One.  He said, "In order to be great you sometimes have to be selfish."  So in order to be great and be truly happy, one needs to have self-realization and to know who one is inside and to go after whatever belief he or she stands.  Do not worry about what other people say.  It is okay to consider what they say, but ultimately it is your decision to make and whose happiness is at stake.

High Tolerance Is Low Standards

When it comes to setting goals or anything anyone is trying to do for that matter, settling or developing a tolerance for an outcome that is compromised than the one one originally had in mind is low standards.  One should not settle for results, because that is like taking the easy way out.  That person is not doing him or herself any favors by choosing to settle.  When someone continues to settle for things in life, then he or she will build up a tolerance that is detrimental to one's growth.  One will not learn anything from whatever he or she is wanting to accomplish, because that person avoids the challenges that is ahead and decide to settle.  When choosing to settle, one is content with having low standards, because that person is compromising his or her outcomes in which he or she cannot become a better version of him or herself.  So all and all, avoid settling and set deadlines for each milestone one is striving to achieve in order to establish standards.  If one does not have any standards, then he or she will accept just about anything, which prevents someone from reaching happiness and end up regretting the choices he or she makes for settling.

Psyche Over Matter

"Pain is only 90 % mental."  It only exists if one thinks in that manner.  Nothing can harm the psyche such as the soul and spirit unless one allows it.  If one's mind is infiltrated with negative thoughts and doubt, then it can have a trickle effect to the spirit and soul.  My mom used to tell me, "You can speaks things into existence."  One should have positive self-talk and the belief to accomplish whatever he or she is trying to achieve. Even when there are obstacles or rough patches down the road or foreseen in the future, positive self-talk and thoughts should still be there and having the belief that one will overcome those hurdles.  There might be days when someone wants to quit at work, on a project, or a goal, but that person needs to have grit to fight through and prevail at the end.  Never let negative thoughts seep into one's psyche, because the mind can overcome any physical or emotional distress one is experiencing at the moment.  I am not saying to work to death, but know when to rest and have some sort of schedule or plan and strive to finish the task at hand.  So all and all, psyche over matter.  The only one who can stop him or her from achieving greatness is oneself.