Have A Healthy Obsession

Whenever one is dealing with a matter,  he or she should try to be involved as much as one can be.  It is good to have a healthy obsession and to be in control of the situation.  I am not talking about having OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) and being worried about every little thing to the point where it distracts someone and throws one off focus.  I mean, staying on top of one's matter, task and keeping up with updates so one does not fall behind and knowing how to handle a situation when the moment arises.  If a problem occurs, one will know how to combat that and knowing how to make the necessary changes or improvements where a situation like that will unlikely occur again when new information is derived.  When working on a goal or doing anything, one should have a healthy obsession, so he or she can stay on top and being in control and avoiding unforeseeable threats.  This will lead one into being successful in about anything one wants to achieve.

Refine, Retune, Reinforce Good Friday!!!!

When working on oneself and trying to become a greater you, one must refine, retune, and reinforce him or herself when setting and accomplishing goals.   When one is refining him or herself, one needs to remove all the impurities or negativity one has about him or herself.   The next step is to retune or adjust after refining oneself by creating goals that helps to improve oneself into becoming the best person one can be.  Then, one must reinforce or strengthen him or herself by building onto the new version of oneself.  When one gets done with a goal to help him or her to become a greater and newer version from the old self, he or she needs to continue to make goals and accomplish them in order to reach greatness and his or her potential.  It is continuously battle with oneself to help and improve and to grow as an individual.  It is easy to get complacent when one reaches a little success, but as I mentioned in a previous post, do not let good get in the way of being great.  Here is a link to that post, Be Great Not Good.

You Have To Want It

When seeking and reaching out for goals, one has to really want it for him or herself.  One must look from within him or herself and ask, "Is this what I really want for me?"  There are people out in the world that will tell others that you need this and that in order to be successful and those people may or may not be successful themselves.  Quite ironic, right?   One should have the belief and confidence and to stand behind in whatever he or she wants in life.  That person should not look for something easy and try to take a shortcut and to say he or she is succeeding in life.  Challenges and struggles are of the essence when taking on tasks and aiming for goals.  One must learn from those challenges and to grow from them as a result.   Do not let fear hold one back from pursuing those goals because of the level of difficult.  One should embrace those challenges.  That is why it makes sense to go for something that one really wants, because he or she will try to go through those barriers in order to reach those goals.  If someone does something and he or she does not really want it, then it is easy for that person to give up and quit and be like, "Oh well."  Do not be that person.  As I mentioned in my last post, Success Is Contagious, so can failure.  So, go for what matters to you.

Success Is Contagious

When one has settled in and is on his or her way of accomplish a goal, success becomes contagious.  The ball will keep on rolling.  Because one knows what it takes and the possible dilemmas he or she will face and understanding on how to combat those problems.  It feels good to achieve something, but do not get caught up in a little bit of success.  One should always look to achieve more after each task, goal has been completed.  Always look to take on challenge, especially if it is difficult; do not run away from anything.  The bigger the challenge, the better the person becomes as a result of accomplishing such feat.  Just as success can be contagious, regression and failing to complete goals can as well.  Do not put oneself in position to fall into a state of relapse.  In order to avoid such state, pursue, achieve, and continue to chase goals in life.

Having Priorities Is Key To Reaching Success

One needs to prioritize in order for to reach success.  Things do come up out of the blue sometimes, but one must make sure he or she does not get off track and lose focus on his or her priorities.  We as humans can have short attention span as well as be distracted very easily, but need to keep our priorities in the forefront.  Setting goals along with deadlines can help with having priorities in line and not to place them on the back burner.  If one starts to do too many things without prioritization, then he or she is going to be in a mess and lost on how to get things accomplish.  One needs to learn about management, especially with time, which can help things go seamless and be more efficient and effective in whatever one's priorities are.  When one knows how to organize and manage his or her priorities, he or she is heading in the right direction and taking a big step into reaching success.  It is easy for us humans to pick up tasks with forgetting what he or she had already to start.  But all of those tasks can be done in a timely manner if one knows how to manage time and set priorities, because us humans are capable of doing so many things.

Believe It, Achieve It

One of the first things an individual must do in order to be successful is to envision him or herself achieving the goal he or she has in mind.   Believing is achieving.  One of my favorite sport players of all time is Kobe Bryant.  Yes, he was good basketball player by putting in a lot of hard work, but one thing I remembered him saying was, "I see or imagine the ball go in the hoop before I shoot it."  That is very powerful statement.  If one has the belief and willpower to do something, it can be achieved.  Belief is one thing, but it has be backed up work or action.  As in some religions, people have heard of the phrase, "What is faith without works." No need to believe in something if he or she is not willing to put the time and work in whatever he or she believes in.  Nothing is really given to us, which is why it feels so rewarding when accomplish a goal. Because one's work had paid off and it was all done by him or her. My mom used to tell me, "You can speak things into existence."  With enough self-talk and belief a long with hard work and dedication, one can achieve it.  Everyone has the ability to do so.  Believe it and you will achieve it.

Be Great Not Good

My dad once told me, "Good is the evil of great."  He had gotten that from a book.  I had forgotten name of it.  It is easy for someone to settle for being okay or good than to be great.  Everyone has heard of the expression, "Take what you can get or settle."  There is nothing negative about that phrase, because time does move fast and it is better than having nothing at all. No one wants to look back and say, "I have could have done a little better than what I had settle for."  It may be more work and harder to achieve greatness, but one gets to say, "I gave it my all,"  and have no regrets.  Being good limits oneself and holds on to untapped potential.  Even when someone is unsuccessful the first, second, or how many times, keep trying.  Being unsuccessful at something multiple times does not equate to failure.  Life is about experiencing.  Being unsuccessful at something in life is inevitable.  Overcoming barriers in life after multiple unsuccessful attempts is what is going to make someone to  be successful in life.  People learn more from mistakes than not.    From adversities, challenges bourn out stronger character and success.  Don't fear away from being great, take it by the horns.

Stay Strong And Persistent

One of the keys to reaching success in anything is to stay strong and persistent.  Any time a person is doing something whether it is a project, work, goal, etc. there are going period or periods of crunch time.  This can be time, resource, or anything that is a constraint to wherever one is trying to reach.  In one's mind, this can make someone's his or her lowest point in life at that moment.  What one should not do is to panic or call it quits.  One should remain calm, be optimistic and say he or she is going to get through this difficult moment.  For the most part, people do not like any sort of pressure, because it can mentally and physically wear someone out.  Believe or not, a little pressure is a good thing.  I am not saying dealing with pressure on a daily is good, but pressure here or there is. This is where a true person's character comes to fruition.  Some may fold under pressure, and may brush it off and say, "It was only one time," but that can enter and stay into someone's psyche.  Then when another encounter comes, that person is most likely going to do the same thing he or she did the first time.  If that person had gone through with the pressure and stay strong and persistent, he or she would had taken what he or she learnt from that incident, and would most likely succeeded through subsequent incidents.  Our bodies have muscle memory which has similar mechanisms as memory T and B cells in immunology.  Meaning if someone is going through a stressful situation and an event happens again in the future, the body is prepared for it and know how to handle it since it dealt with it before.  Even if you were unable to succeed the first time in a pressure situation, but fought through it, did not mean you fail.  Failing is when someone gives up entirely.  That person will continue to fail, if he or she sticks with a giving up mentality.  So all and all, stay strong and persistent in everything you do.  You will be thankful and become a stronger individual for it.

Be A Better You

One of the most important aspects for growth in an individual is to become a better you.  Even if you are currently happy with yourself and you are yourself's best friend.  It is vital to love oneself, but one needs to challenge him or herself and set goals for him or her in order to have growth.  Because if you get content and become complacent, then you won't reach any of your untapped potential.  This will cripple and disable you from any sort of personal or professional growth, which is important to reach any sort of success in whatever one is seeking.  In my personal life, I have become my own worst enemy.  I had a lot of academic success through grade school and post secondary education, but did not try to better myself.  I would go to school, do my work, and come home.  I did very little interaction with people while I was there.  I was a reserved individual.  I did not like to speak in general, but some people looked at it that I disliked them.  Like the old adage, "It is me and not you."  That was a truism that hinder me both personally and professionally.  As of now, I have two degrees, but have a hard of finding a position in my field due to a lack of effective communication skills. Communication is a big aspect in every type of professional business. I am an articulate person in the thought process, but when it comes to verbalizing it, that is a different story.  As I have learnt the hard way, thinking and speaking are two different processes.  Both require a lot of work, which involves a ton of practice.  One can read on how to do those things, but in order for it to effectively work, they must be put into practice, which involves interacting with people.  As I mentioned earlier, I am a reserved/introvert person, which meant I had a comfort zone and did not want to come out of it because of fear.  Being in a comfort zone is safe and dangerous at the same time.  It is safe due to the fact you do not have to face your fear in the short term, but dangerous since it limits your growth.  Eventually, one is going to have to come to grip with his or her fear in order to get to where he or she is trying to go in life.  Life is about experiencing and facing challenges and to become a better you as a result of those obstacles.  Embrace challenge, it is okay.  It is okay to fail as long as you continue to strive until you reach success.  You will live and learn.  Failing happens only when someone gives up and stop trying to reach his or her goal or goals.  Don't give up, don't ever give up.