Be Assertive Over Passive

Being assertive over passive is important when doing anything in life, especially with developing and building relationships with oneself and others. Someone who is assertive possess the characteristics that everyone should want such as leadership, motivated, self-assured, driven, etc.  He or she is aiming high in life by setting goals and trying to reach his or her potential and also willing to live with the consequences.  As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, Risks Are Good, and are the catalysts in reaching someone's goals or potentials in life.  He or she may hit big or fall hard, but that person is not afraid to fail and to try again and again.  Like the saying goes, "Everyone loves a fighter."  This person will stand out from a lot of people.  On the other side of the coin, someone being passive is not seen as a negative thing, but he or she will be unable to reach his or her potential due to be afraid of taking risks and failing.  One will be consistent and not be able to grow on a personal and professional level.  That person is not going through challenges or trying to avoid them and playing it safe.  With the assertive person being inconsistent, but he or she is growing because he or she is taking those risks and facing those challenges to strive to be the best person that he or she can be.  As I written many of times on my blog, life is about experiencing.  The best way is to be assertive and pursuing whatever one is trying to achieve and making the mistakes that will come along the way and learning from them in the pursuit of reaching happiness.

You Have To Want It

When seeking and reaching out for goals, one has to really want it for him or herself.  One must look from within him or herself and ask, "Is this what I really want for me?"  There are people out in the world that will tell others that you need this and that in order to be successful and those people may or may not be successful themselves.  Quite ironic, right?   One should have the belief and confidence and to stand behind in whatever he or she wants in life.  That person should not look for something easy and try to take a shortcut and to say he or she is succeeding in life.  Challenges and struggles are of the essence when taking on tasks and aiming for goals.  One must learn from those challenges and to grow from them as a result.   Do not let fear hold one back from pursuing those goals because of the level of difficult.  One should embrace those challenges.  That is why it makes sense to go for something that one really wants, because he or she will try to go through those barriers in order to reach those goals.  If someone does something and he or she does not really want it, then it is easy for that person to give up and quit and be like, "Oh well."  Do not be that person.  As I mentioned in my last post, Success Is Contagious, so can failure.  So, go for what matters to you.

Success Is Contagious

When one has settled in and is on his or her way of accomplish a goal, success becomes contagious.  The ball will keep on rolling.  Because one knows what it takes and the possible dilemmas he or she will face and understanding on how to combat those problems.  It feels good to achieve something, but do not get caught up in a little bit of success.  One should always look to achieve more after each task, goal has been completed.  Always look to take on challenge, especially if it is difficult; do not run away from anything.  The bigger the challenge, the better the person becomes as a result of accomplishing such feat.  Just as success can be contagious, regression and failing to complete goals can as well.  Do not put oneself in position to fall into a state of relapse.  In order to avoid such state, pursue, achieve, and continue to chase goals in life.

Stay Strong And Persistent

One of the keys to reaching success in anything is to stay strong and persistent.  Any time a person is doing something whether it is a project, work, goal, etc. there are going period or periods of crunch time.  This can be time, resource, or anything that is a constraint to wherever one is trying to reach.  In one's mind, this can make someone's his or her lowest point in life at that moment.  What one should not do is to panic or call it quits.  One should remain calm, be optimistic and say he or she is going to get through this difficult moment.  For the most part, people do not like any sort of pressure, because it can mentally and physically wear someone out.  Believe or not, a little pressure is a good thing.  I am not saying dealing with pressure on a daily is good, but pressure here or there is. This is where a true person's character comes to fruition.  Some may fold under pressure, and may brush it off and say, "It was only one time," but that can enter and stay into someone's psyche.  Then when another encounter comes, that person is most likely going to do the same thing he or she did the first time.  If that person had gone through with the pressure and stay strong and persistent, he or she would had taken what he or she learnt from that incident, and would most likely succeeded through subsequent incidents.  Our bodies have muscle memory which has similar mechanisms as memory T and B cells in immunology.  Meaning if someone is going through a stressful situation and an event happens again in the future, the body is prepared for it and know how to handle it since it dealt with it before.  Even if you were unable to succeed the first time in a pressure situation, but fought through it, did not mean you fail.  Failing is when someone gives up entirely.  That person will continue to fail, if he or she sticks with a giving up mentality.  So all and all, stay strong and persistent in everything you do.  You will be thankful and become a stronger individual for it.

Be A Better You

One of the most important aspects for growth in an individual is to become a better you.  Even if you are currently happy with yourself and you are yourself's best friend.  It is vital to love oneself, but one needs to challenge him or herself and set goals for him or her in order to have growth.  Because if you get content and become complacent, then you won't reach any of your untapped potential.  This will cripple and disable you from any sort of personal or professional growth, which is important to reach any sort of success in whatever one is seeking.  In my personal life, I have become my own worst enemy.  I had a lot of academic success through grade school and post secondary education, but did not try to better myself.  I would go to school, do my work, and come home.  I did very little interaction with people while I was there.  I was a reserved individual.  I did not like to speak in general, but some people looked at it that I disliked them.  Like the old adage, "It is me and not you."  That was a truism that hinder me both personally and professionally.  As of now, I have two degrees, but have a hard of finding a position in my field due to a lack of effective communication skills. Communication is a big aspect in every type of professional business. I am an articulate person in the thought process, but when it comes to verbalizing it, that is a different story.  As I have learnt the hard way, thinking and speaking are two different processes.  Both require a lot of work, which involves a ton of practice.  One can read on how to do those things, but in order for it to effectively work, they must be put into practice, which involves interacting with people.  As I mentioned earlier, I am a reserved/introvert person, which meant I had a comfort zone and did not want to come out of it because of fear.  Being in a comfort zone is safe and dangerous at the same time.  It is safe due to the fact you do not have to face your fear in the short term, but dangerous since it limits your growth.  Eventually, one is going to have to come to grip with his or her fear in order to get to where he or she is trying to go in life.  Life is about experiencing and facing challenges and to become a better you as a result of those obstacles.  Embrace challenge, it is okay.  It is okay to fail as long as you continue to strive until you reach success.  You will live and learn.  Failing happens only when someone gives up and stop trying to reach his or her goal or goals.  Don't give up, don't ever give up.