Have An Approach Method

The crux of an approach method, whether it is developing a relationship with someone or setting goals is the association vs. connection aspect.  Even though the two are similar, there is a slight different.  Connection is a potential based or focused where two or more entities have no previous interactions before, but may derive benefits from all sides if the approach is done in a proper manner.  This revolves around creating a good first impression and being about to present and to articulate oneself.  The second aspect is association, which is an establish based or focused where two or more entities has a connection and rapport.  This has to be maintained and to be built upon in order for the relationship to continue and be prosperous.  An association is not able to exist without first establishing a connection.  The two go hand in hand.  One must have a plan for an approach to be executed the way he or she wants it go in order to successfully establish relationships with people and accomplish goals.

How To Become Assertive: Invest In Self First

In order for someone to become assertive, one needs to invest in him or herself first.  Before one can truly make someone else happy or invest into someone or something, he or she needs to make oneself happy first.   People want to be liked by everybody and want his or her approval or validation, but one needs to truly seek out his or her own desires and wants and to affirm self-validation, which I wrote in a previous post, Self-Validation.  No one knows one better than oneself and looking for validation from others is not going to make one happy, because one is unsure about him or herself without investing.  Until one knows oneself by investing into him or herself with time, money, emotions, experiencing life on his or her own and has self-validation, then one can take into consideration of sanctions from other people's validations.  One has to search for his or her own pursuit of happiness or self and to look from within and to start setting goals for oneself to reach wherever he or she is trying to go in life.  One must always try to look to improve and to get better at being a better version of him or herself and that is by being proactive and setting goals, which will create opportunities for that person to achieve whatever he or she is trying to accomplish.   As one is going through the journey for pursuit of greatness/happiness/bliss of oneself, he or she will face adversities and challenges and learn more about him or herself in which he or she will be investing the time, money, effort/emotions and will reach success. Even if he or she does not reach success the first time at whatever he or she is trying to accomplish, that person will continuously to try and try until success is reach.  As a result, he or she will develop characteristics such as drive, tenacity, self-reliance, self-worth, high morals, etc.  That person will exude these characteristics and they will be ingrained into his or her personality and others will take notice.  All in all, in order to be assertive, it has to start with you, because you matter.  Being assertive in life can lead to immense possibilities and reaching your greatest potential in one's life.

Self-Validation

In life, people are seeking out what they want out of life and what to do with it.  Some may go look for guidance from people who have been big influencers in their lives or who they have a great deal of trust. What most people often forget to do is to look at themselves and want they truly want.  What they want may not match or be similar to what the people who matter the most to them.  Those people have to remember that only them are in control of their lives and happiness.  One does not have to receive validation from others in order to achieve happiness.  What one believes in and stand for is all the validation that he or she needs.  It is up to that individual to go after it through hard work, persistent, and determination.  One of the people I admire is Shannon Sharpe from Fox Sports One.  He said, "In order to be great you sometimes have to be selfish."  So in order to be great and be truly happy, one needs to have self-realization and to know who one is inside and to go after whatever belief he or she stands.  Do not worry about what other people say.  It is okay to consider what they say, but ultimately it is your decision to make and whose happiness is at stake.

Seek And Ye Shall Find

Everyone in life has his or her own journey to seek after in order to find whatever his or her purpose on earth is.  Life is about experiencing and one needs to go to seek information or the truth on his or her own to find whatever he or she is looking.  No one can seek it for you, but it is fine to ask others to help one to move closer to finding or achieving his or her goal or destination. There are plenty of resources out there and people willing to help someone to accomplish whatever he or she is trying to obtain.  Throughout life, people have been seeking and acquiring knowledge through observation, reading, and experiencing.  The answers are out there, but one must be empirical to reach them.  Life is about discovering and learning about oneself and others and achieving.  If one really wants to achieve or find anything, he or she must seek it for him or herself; no one's journey or experience is the same.  Seek and ye shall find.

Worrying Is Wasting Time

One of the biggest things that someone should avoid doing in life is to worry.  It does nothing but sucks the life and energy out of someone and drains the time away.  Worrying will not change anyone's situation, but will keep someone from being productive and making useful of his or her time.  As I mentioned in an earlier post, time is one of the most precious thing one can have in life.  One should make the most out of it, because time moves fast and will leave someone behind.  Worrying is just like fear, there is nothing to it.  Only one allows those type of emotions into his or her psyche.  One has to go out and live life without worry and fear; that is the only way one will feel free.  Strive out to be the best that one can be and on the pursue of happiness.  The only who is stopping oneself is the exact same person he or she sees in the mirror.  So stop worrying and be comfortable in one's own skin and make the most out of one's time.