Special Edition: Communication Is Essential

Communication is essential in everyday life, especially in regards to building relationships and interacting with people.  There are several forms of communication that we as humans use such as technology, verbal, non verbal.  We as people are social beings.  We like to be informed and to know what is going on, especially if it is going to affect us in any sort of way.  That is why it is important to be an effective communicator, where one can be sought or look as a trustworthy, leader, competent, and other positive attributes.  Communication is extremely important in the professional realm of work businesses as well as relationships between men and women.  If one is not able to articulate oneself on an interview for a job, he or she will most likely be passed over despite being very qualified on paper.  That is how important communication is in the workforce, because it is one of the most determining factors if a project is going to succeed or fail, along with the relationships of people that someone works with.  As far as relationships between men and women, the way the two sexes communicate is one of biggest difference they have amongst each other.  For women, they are stimulated by words/emotions and men have to be careful when speaking to them, because women can be offended by what men say, even if men did not mean for something to be taken a certain way.  There are words that have double meanings.  For example, the word 'pique' has a meaning of to stimulate out of curiosity and can be also be define as the feeling of annoyance or frustration.  When it comes to communication from men, they are blunt, terse, and a lot more direct and to the point when conversing or being more objective than subjective.  There is little to no emotions when expressing themselves, whereas women are a lot more detailed and express emotions when speaking or being more subjective than objective.   It is important for us as humans to have a blend of being subjective and objective.  I believe men and women need each other and do not care what feminism or any feminist say such as Gloria Steinem, Irina Dunn that  'A woman need a man like a fish needs a bicycle.'  Both sexes need each other like a fish needs water.  Men and women can teach one another on what each other lacks.  For men, they lack expressing themselves when conversing with women.   Women may feel men do not have much of opinions and may come off as idiots to women.  For women, they lack rationale, logic and reason to the extent of men.  Women may feel the need to express their feelings to men even when it comes to the smallest of things which are benign and cannot go without saying anything.  Women do not know when enough is enough.  I feel like they do not posses that depth to let things go that are benign, because they feel those things may worsen or become problems if left ignored; this comes off as querulous to men.  They may be unable to recognize when some things are small and not to sweat the small stuff.  I believe that men and women should teach each other on one another strengths, because that will bridge the gap between the two sexes as far as communication goes.  Communication is crucial and can build stronger and healthier relationships between people when done effectively.

Train The Brain Happy Easter Sunday

There is a "Use it or lose it" principle when it comes to training the brain.  One becomes in sync with whatever he or she chooses to train for, because the brain is hardwired as such.  There is a process called pruning in the brain system where things that are really useless to someone and they get wiped away.   That is why it is important to keep oneself occupy or active, because if not, one's brain will become as such.  If one starts setting goals and being active, the brain will become hardwired and one will become quicker and more efficient at doing such activity.  If one wants to become a couch potato, one's brain will be hardwired and it will become difficult to break out of that state of mind.  So please, keep being active and finding new ways to become a better version of oneself.

  

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Refine, Retune, Reinforce Good Friday!!!!

When working on oneself and trying to become a greater you, one must refine, retune, and reinforce him or herself when setting and accomplishing goals.   When one is refining him or herself, one needs to remove all the impurities or negativity one has about him or herself.   The next step is to retune or adjust after refining oneself by creating goals that helps to improve oneself into becoming the best person one can be.  Then, one must reinforce or strengthen him or herself by building onto the new version of oneself.  When one gets done with a goal to help him or her to become a greater and newer version from the old self, he or she needs to continue to make goals and accomplish them in order to reach greatness and his or her potential.  It is continuously battle with oneself to help and improve and to grow as an individual.  It is easy to get complacent when one reaches a little success, but as I mentioned in a previous post, do not let good get in the way of being great.  Here is a link to that post, Be Great Not Good.

Staying Updated Is Standing On Top

In whatever one is trying to do with his or her life, one should always put his or her best foot forward and always be at his or her best.  One way of doing such a thing is to keep oneself's updated with whatever is going to be helpful to reaching him or her goals in life.  This can be the resources such as information, education, clothing,etc to help stand out from most people in life.  Another being proactive, especially when one has reached a goal in life, one should continuously start making new ones as one is about to be completed.   It is key to look to improve oneself and working to build at one's current state and avoid being idle.  When one is content and not being productive, he or she will feel like he or she is falling behind in time.  If he or she is trying to improve and be updated, that person will create opportunities for him or herself, because he or she is putting oneself in a position to get where he or she desires to go.  That person is asserting him or herself by taking control of his or her situation and being initiative and determined to improve his or her chances to achieving his or her goals.  The best way to do so is to stay anew or fresh and keep updating oneself and being on top of putting the best version of oneself upfront and standing out.

How To Become Assertive: Invest In Self First

In order for someone to become assertive, one needs to invest in him or herself first.  Before one can truly make someone else happy or invest into someone or something, he or she needs to make oneself happy first.   People want to be liked by everybody and want his or her approval or validation, but one needs to truly seek out his or her own desires and wants and to affirm self-validation, which I wrote in a previous post, Self-Validation.  No one knows one better than oneself and looking for validation from others is not going to make one happy, because one is unsure about him or herself without investing.  Until one knows oneself by investing into him or herself with time, money, emotions, experiencing life on his or her own and has self-validation, then one can take into consideration of sanctions from other people's validations.  One has to search for his or her own pursuit of happiness or self and to look from within and to start setting goals for oneself to reach wherever he or she is trying to go in life.  One must always try to look to improve and to get better at being a better version of him or herself and that is by being proactive and setting goals, which will create opportunities for that person to achieve whatever he or she is trying to accomplish.   As one is going through the journey for pursuit of greatness/happiness/bliss of oneself, he or she will face adversities and challenges and learn more about him or herself in which he or she will be investing the time, money, effort/emotions and will reach success. Even if he or she does not reach success the first time at whatever he or she is trying to accomplish, that person will continuously to try and try until success is reach.  As a result, he or she will develop characteristics such as drive, tenacity, self-reliance, self-worth, high morals, etc.  That person will exude these characteristics and they will be ingrained into his or her personality and others will take notice.  All in all, in order to be assertive, it has to start with you, because you matter.  Being assertive in life can lead to immense possibilities and reaching your greatest potential in one's life.

Be Assertive Over Passive

Being assertive over passive is important when doing anything in life, especially with developing and building relationships with oneself and others. Someone who is assertive possess the characteristics that everyone should want such as leadership, motivated, self-assured, driven, etc.  He or she is aiming high in life by setting goals and trying to reach his or her potential and also willing to live with the consequences.  As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, Risks Are Good, and are the catalysts in reaching someone's goals or potentials in life.  He or she may hit big or fall hard, but that person is not afraid to fail and to try again and again.  Like the saying goes, "Everyone loves a fighter."  This person will stand out from a lot of people.  On the other side of the coin, someone being passive is not seen as a negative thing, but he or she will be unable to reach his or her potential due to be afraid of taking risks and failing.  One will be consistent and not be able to grow on a personal and professional level.  That person is not going through challenges or trying to avoid them and playing it safe.  With the assertive person being inconsistent, but he or she is growing because he or she is taking those risks and facing those challenges to strive to be the best person that he or she can be.  As I written many of times on my blog, life is about experiencing.  The best way is to be assertive and pursuing whatever one is trying to achieve and making the mistakes that will come along the way and learning from them in the pursuit of reaching happiness.

Gather Than Rather

When doing anything in life, one should gather the information and any other resources before planning to do so than rather do something without any information and resources.  One should be in control of his or her situations in life and to take an active/proactive role rather than hoping for breaks or having someone else doing it for that person and being passive.  A little bit of work has not killed anyone before.  Work is good.  Work makes someone into an honest person.  One should always put him or herself in the best possible position in anything he or she is trying to do or strive to accomplish.  Having a passive(rather) mindset is not the way to go, because one is powerless.  He or she is depending upon hope and prayers and looking for easy ways out, which in then creates doubt.  This leads to nowhere positive.  One should have a active(gather) mindset, because one is in power and controlling his or her situation and putting in the necessary work for things to be created.  Like the old saying goes, "What is faith without works?"  One can create anything he or she believes in as long as it is realistic and attainable by doing the work.