Self-Validation

In life, people are seeking out what they want out of life and what to do with it.  Some may go look for guidance from people who have been big influencers in their lives or who they have a great deal of trust. What most people often forget to do is to look at themselves and want they truly want.  What they want may not match or be similar to what the people who matter the most to them.  Those people have to remember that only them are in control of their lives and happiness.  One does not have to receive validation from others in order to achieve happiness.  What one believes in and stand for is all the validation that he or she needs.  It is up to that individual to go after it through hard work, persistent, and determination.  One of the people I admire is Shannon Sharpe from Fox Sports One.  He said, "In order to be great you sometimes have to be selfish."  So in order to be great and be truly happy, one needs to have self-realization and to know who one is inside and to go after whatever belief he or she stands.  Do not worry about what other people say.  It is okay to consider what they say, but ultimately it is your decision to make and whose happiness is at stake.

Seek And Ye Shall Find

Everyone in life has his or her own journey to seek after in order to find whatever his or her purpose on earth is.  Life is about experiencing and one needs to go to seek information or the truth on his or her own to find whatever he or she is looking.  No one can seek it for you, but it is fine to ask others to help one to move closer to finding or achieving his or her goal or destination. There are plenty of resources out there and people willing to help someone to accomplish whatever he or she is trying to obtain.  Throughout life, people have been seeking and acquiring knowledge through observation, reading, and experiencing.  The answers are out there, but one must be empirical to reach them.  Life is about discovering and learning about oneself and others and achieving.  If one really wants to achieve or find anything, he or she must seek it for him or herself; no one's journey or experience is the same.  Seek and ye shall find.

Lessons In Life Are Meant To Be Blessings

Like the old saying goes, "Everything happens for a reason." Whether one knows it or not, lessons we as people learn in life are meant to be blessings.  One may not understand why do certain things happen to me and usually during critical time of his or her life.  When things like this occurs, do not ask why, but learn from those lessons and mature to become a better version of oneself as one is continuously learning throughout in life.  Challenges and adversities arise when one is not really expecting them to happen.  Everything can be good one moment, and then go in a downward spiral the next.  This can cause someone to refocus if he or she has been caught in moment or moments and gone complacent.  Whether something happens, bad or good, take something from it and continue to grow or build from it.  Lessons should be seen as blessings, even if one see it as a negative.  Well, he or she needs to turn that negativity into something positive, because lessons will continue throughout our lifetime.

Worrying Is Wasting Time

One of the biggest things that someone should avoid doing in life is to worry.  It does nothing but sucks the life and energy out of someone and drains the time away.  Worrying will not change anyone's situation, but will keep someone from being productive and making useful of his or her time.  As I mentioned in an earlier post, time is one of the most precious thing one can have in life.  One should make the most out of it, because time moves fast and will leave someone behind.  Worrying is just like fear, there is nothing to it.  Only one allows those type of emotions into his or her psyche.  One has to go out and live life without worry and fear; that is the only way one will feel free.  Strive out to be the best that one can be and on the pursue of happiness.  The only who is stopping oneself is the exact same person he or she sees in the mirror.  So stop worrying and be comfortable in one's own skin and make the most out of one's time.

Don't Fear Change

Ever hear of the phrase, "Nothing to fear but fear itself."  Fear is an emotion that someone allows into his or her psyche.  Everyone posses the abilities to do whatever he or she wants to achieve in life.  I wrote about this in two of my previous posts, Your Abilities=Your Utilities and Psyche Over Matter.  Do not let fear stop anyone from anything.  I know we as people at times like to be in their comfort zones, because they are safe and convenient and we can be stuck in our ways and are not always susceptible to change. If one has lived for quite some time, he or she knows that change is inevitable.  That person knows that he or she has to be adaptable to change in order to continue to succeed in life.   Change should not be looked as a negative thing.  It helps us to grow and to have different perspectives and experiences that we would not look at it if change was nonexistent.   Life is about experiencing and changes are the essences, but they benefit us by helping to become a better version of ourselves.  Do not fear change, embrace it.  

Think Big

When it comes to setting goals and tasks to achieve something, one should try to think big.  Even though he is a controversial figure and the POTUS, Donald Trump is right when he said, "As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big."  One should strive to become great and not good, which I wrote about in one of my previous posts, Be Great Not Good .  Try to use one's capabilities to the fullest.  It does not have to be on every goal one goes out to set for him or herself.  But when one is setting goals, he or she needs to try to make the goal a little more difficult than the previous one in order to gradually reach greatness and full potential, which also causes growth.  Setting goals with the same level of difficulty to accomplish is all as well for a few of them, but one should not do that for every one.  As one's goals start to become more harder as one does more and more of them, the more challenges and difficult they become, which will cause someone to become stronger and greater than he or she old self.  No matter how one's feel about some goals are too big to accomplish, one should strive to achieve them anyways.  No one should try to limit him or herself.  This is a detriment to one's growth and confidence.

3 Ways To Create Opportunities

There are ways for one to create opportunities for him or herself.   This involves a little research and observation in order for opportunities to arise.  Whatever one is trying to become or do with his or her life needs to take a proactive role in how to make something happen.  For example, with research, this can mean browsing the internet or reading books and finding stories on how people got to where their at now and that is the position that person wants to be.   If someone is looking for a profession to go into, there is LinkedIn, networking events if join communities online, etc.  Another way to create opportunities is something basic that anyone can do which is to be observant.  Wherever one goes, whether it is walking, driving, riding a bicycle or in a car with friends or family, be very aware of the surroundings.  Those are where the biggest opportunities come from, but a lot people can have the tendencies of missing out on them if not conscious at all.  There can flyers on bulletin boards at grocery stores, telephone poles, business offices, etc.  One should walk into any situation with an opened mind, even if one thinks it is not beneficial to him or her initially.  A third way to create opportunities for him or herself is to develop an elevator speech.  One will never know who he or she will run into, so it is best to have one made, because this will be to his or her advantage and can highly positioned oneself into opportunity he or she does not see coming.  So all and all, no matter how little control of the situation one thinks he or she has, opportunities can be created if he or she takes an active role.

A link on how to create an elevator speech:  Elevator Speech